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Self-development as seen by Al-Faqi

 

All individuals seek to develop and develop their abilities, and self-confidence is the first reason for the success of the process of self-development and building a strong personality. When the individual trusts himself and his abilities, this is reflected in the vision. of others in Him.

 

Self development

People trust to judge us by our apparent behavior, by translating the movement of hands and eyes. As you speak, people will see if your character is strong or weak.

 

For example, if your voice is shaking, your hand movements are shaky, your facial muscles are grumpy, and your eyes are wide, then know that your personality is weak and you lack self-confidence. 

In addition, personal development and the construction of a strong personality can only come if you continue with perseverance and effort to earn the trust of others.

 

This does not mean that personal development is confirmed only by others, but it should be the beginning to trust yourself and your abilities, and seek to develop yourself and build your strong independent personality.

 

The individual must work on evaluating himself from time to time, identifying the positive points of his personality, working on developing them, understanding his negative points, and working to get rid of them. 

Actions he has carried out with other people or embodying that in phrases such as: "If it weren't for so-and-so, it wouldn't be", or "This is not my intelligence, but so-and-so ...".

 

In addition to a lot of inference from the words of others, or allowing someone to use some offensive words against you, like saying: stupid, or fat, ... etc. 

Also, showing some movement disorders, such as constantly moving your hands, hitting the table while speaking, or raising your eyebrows, are indicators of a weak personality.

 

How to Develop Yourself from El-Feki

 

El-Feki has sought, through many seminars and conferences, as well as through his books, to implant self-confidence and self-development in people.

 

We can review some of his advice on self-development from the book "The Power of Self-Confidence":

 

A person must be in constant movement and development, and help himself to make decisions, and not say: There is no time to make a change in my life.

 

Self-confidence is one of the most important aspects of the personality that the individual must maintain and work to develop because the person who lacks self-confidence will not be able to achieve any achievement and its existence will be meaningless.

 

You are the one who makes the impossibility exist and makes it surround you, if you decide, thinks, plan and do, there will be no impossible.

 

We have to realize that each of us has his concept of himself about everything around us, and we do not necessarily have to agree with others in our concept of himself. Self-concept is acquired, it comes from the mother and father, after school, friends, and the media, and from the moment it is acquired we can change it.

Self-concept is also dynamic, which means that it can change and develop, but in its sense.

 

Do not blame yourself, calculate it and learn from your mistakes, and try to develop the positive aspects of your personality, correct the negative aspects, or get rid of them, and this is what is known as the ideal of oneself, and the ideal of oneself includes five basic pillars, namely:

• The spiritual part: to have a spiritual ideal, you know exactly what you want.

 

• The healthy and useful part: You know what you want and what your problem is and you know your health too.

• The personal part: You know your psychological assessment and you know how this assessment is carried out.

 

• The professional part: you know in which field you will be successful.

 

• The physical part: you know where you want to go on your own.

 

You have to steer clear of three things: criticism, blame, and comparison, all of which leave you feeling negative energy and intense frustration.

You should not judge those around you for flaws, strengths, or weaknesses just by outward appearance.

A person must accept himself as he is, and love himself as he is, and this is what is known as self-esteem, self-esteem is his self-esteem and his sense of satisfaction with it.

You have to realize that lack of self-acceptance leads a person to two things, namely:

 

1. Negative behaviors.
2. Personal weakness and social fear.

Focusing on your goals gives you achievement and mental energy, and the more flexible you are, the more you avoid negative feelings.

There is something in the body called the physiology of the body, which is why we find that the self-confident person has a laugh that differs from others, just as their inner thinking also differs, so we must first work to change the physiology of our body.

body, because if the body changes, the thought will change, and if the thought changes, the body will change. It means that changing one will affect the other automatically.

One of the important things to build a strong and confident personality is that a person first thinks about her life and then begins to change a small part of her; To go where you want to be.